Thursday, July 07, 2005

Grandaddy: Epilogue

It was a holy moment. I felt like an intruder, yet, at the same time I felt incredibly blessed to be a witness. It's an odd thing as a son to watch your father say goodbye to his father. Dad asked me to go to the funeral home with him to handle some last minute details before the "visitation". We walked in and saw the body in the casket. It was him and at the same time it wasn't. Life is something you can see. If it isn't there, a person just looks different.

It was the first time that Dad had seen Grandaddy since he died. His hair was all wrong. They had slicked it back (something that anyone who knows my grandfather knows that he would never do). Dad asked for a brush. I watched through tears as he re-brushed his fathers hair with tenderness that would simply break your heart if you saw it. He checked to make sure that Grandaddy was wearing his watch and that he was wearing it the "right" way...with the face on the inside of his wrist. On the way out, Dad asked me if I was ok.

The next day I watched my Dad and his brother do the first half of their father's funeral. I hope one day that I have that kind of strength. My Dad talks about how strong his Dad was. Maybe that's where Dad got it. Maybe that means I've got a shot.
AE

8 comments:

Blake said...

I bet because of that experience right there you'll have the strength you need.

JP Manzi said...

Brother, thank you for sharing that with us and being strong for your own father. In our prayers Adam

Brian Burkett said...

wow... Thanks for that post. I don't really know what else to say. You are in my prayers, brother.

Brandon Scott said...

Wow--powerful. What a powerful picture. You must pass that on to your children. That paints such a beautiful picture of love that you are already passing down to your offspring. You're a great man, bro. Blessings on your family during this time.

David U said...

Adam, I am sorry for your loss. God bless you and your family during this hard time.

In HIM,
DU

Gilbert said...

I have been at camp all week and I just found out about your grandfather. Sorry about the loss, but you are right... there is great strength in your family.

Steve Duer said...

Adam,

I know your mom and dad from my time with Agape in Alabama. My sympathy to you and your family.

bigsip said...

It was good to see y'all for a moment while you were here. Sorry we didn't get to speak more. We just went to Phenix City this past weekend to finish gathering old books, pictures, etc. from your grandaddy's house. We found some great old pics and stuff from the past that you'll enjoy showing to Emma in the future. Tell Dana and Emme "Hi." from us!